The New Dad Blog - Week 2: The Magnificent Midwives



On 13th November 2017, there was a brand new addition to the Graham household. This is the latest in a weekly blog series looking at the highs and lows of being a new dad. Welcome to The New Dad Blog: Week 2 where this week I thank the midwives who helped bring Rosie into the world. To catch up on previous editions of The New Dad Blog, check out my profile here:

When we first found out that we were going to be having a baby, a few people expressed some pretty strong opinions about the involvement of the midwives in the pregnancy process. To say these were varied viewpoints would be underplaying what we heard. Some said their midwives were absolutely tremendous and that they couldn’t have been better; others said they felt like they were belittled by them and felt like they were not parenting correctly; while a couple said that by having more than one midwife over the course of the 9 months meant they got along with some and not with others. Having heard all of this, we were both a little nervous and apprehensive about how our experience would be with the midwives that would ultimately deliver our child into the world. Having now gone through the pregnancy and the birth (granted Mrs G did FAR more than me in this respect!) and been passed over to the health visitor team, it's fair to say that we both cannot speak highly enough of the work that the midwives did for us. Whether this would have been different had the birth been in hospital rather than our planned home birth, we'll never know - but with every appointment, ante-natal class and visit since the birth, the team has treated us with immense levels or care and compassion. We were never told "this is the right way to do things and if you don't do it this way, then you're doing it wrong" or felt like our views or plans weren't listened to. The midwives really did their utmost to make us feel like we really could do this crazy, old job called parenting! Since little Rosie was born, we had visits on day 1, 2, 3, 5 and 10 (with a check-in phone call on day 7 to make sure we were getting along tickity-boo) from all three of the community midwives and they all made sure that Rosie was doing fine in her first few days, but equally made sure that Mrs G (and, again to a lesser extent, myself) were coping with our new bundle of joy. We are truly so full of praise for the team we had. So if any of them are reading this, we just want to say a huge thank you for everything you did for us. You probably don't get told that you do a great job as much as you should do! Rather incredibly, we didn't have to pay a single penny for the service that we got (other than taxes, obviously!) From initial scans, to classes, to blood pressure checks, to the birth itself, to weighing the baby, to assessments on baby and mum - the entire spend from my bank account was £0.00. Isn't that incredible? I didn't want this blog to become political, but I'll leave you for this week by saying this - the NHS is a wonderful part of the fabric of this country. The system might have its faults, but the advantages thoroughly outweigh the flaws. Do everything you can to make sure it stays this way. We probably wouldn't realise how good it is until it's gone. Let's make sure that doesn't happen.